How to Let Go of Unconfidence
November 15, 2008 by rainier
Any time that you feel unconfident you are not alone. Yet it is great to realise that there are ways that you can overcome this obstacle be it in social situations, when making an important presentation or when you are going for a job interview.
Below is a helpful tip that you can use to overcome that challenge. It is simple to apply in all areas of your life. Make it a point now to step out of your comfort zone and begin to see and accept a new you.
It is vitally important that you have made that all-important decision that you are absolutely committed to make that work. That you are willing to do all that it takes to be rid of the obstacles that have been robbing you of a great life.
Be committed and keep it going. If at first you are scared, that’s fine. It’s normal. The next time you challenge your anxiety you do so with less fear.
In due course this fear will have a less hold over you.And as your determination gains momentum, the fear that once held you back will have weakened, and you will be able to face many more challenges that you wouldn’t usually handle or face.
Prior to an event that makes you edgy write down what it is that is making you uncomfortable about the event. Get a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. In one column, Jot all the reasons why you are uneasy about that event.Make a list and be as honest with yourself as you can. The longer the list the better and more truthful.Once done, on the other column, write down how you would like to feel for each reason why you think you are uncomfortable. Write down the first thought that comes to mind.
Now each day, as far in advance of the event as possible, pick one obstacle with its counter feeling and find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for about ten minutes.
Seat yourself back or lie down and relax. Remind yourself of the way you want to feel and close your eyes. Visualise how you would like to act and feel. How you would present yourself.
Involve your feelings, and get emotional. Cry if you want to. The more emotional you get, the more beneficial this will be.
See yourself in your mind’s eye doing exactly what you want to do. Feel it and see it with great detail. Take your time. No rush.
As the days go by before that event, continue to work down your entire list. Visualise being confident. Imagine it all with all the innermost emotions you can muster.As the event draws closer, you will feel yourself becoming more courageous and ready to take on whatever comes with that event.On the day of the event, you will find that you are enthusiastic, confident and ready to get started.
You will feel optimistic, and your confidence gradually increases as time goes by. Step by step, with each minute that goes by your confidence will escalate. You give a presence of confidence that you thought you never had.
Everyone will notice how you radiate confidence and courage.
You can use the skill for any event where you sense you lack confidence. This tool is there for your use in any way that you creatively use it for.It is extremely powerful.
